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With millions of people the world over entering isolation to fight against the spread of Coronavirus COVID19, the need for positivity becomes even more critical. 

Taking his cue from the seminal works residing at the University of Pennsylvania on Positive Psychology,Mike Buchanan, Founder of Positively Leading- a leading authority in this area - explains how, by advocating the following techniques.


Positive Emotion

From positive emotion springs happiness. Focusing on positive emotions is more than smiling: it is the ability to remain optimistic and view one’s situation from a constructive perspective. While the Coronavirus world makes optimism a challenge, there are things you can do to stay optimistic:


- Limit your access to social media and news: listen to or read it once a day to keep informed and so that you are not constantly bombarded with bad news – switch off your news feeds, talk radio and email alerts.


- Take time to appreciate your home and those who are with you: write a daily list of three or more things in and around your at home for which you are grateful and share your gratitude with others.


- Take time out to properly enjoy your coffee breaks; now is an excellent opportunity to have proper conversations, face-to-face or remotely – steer the conversation away from Coronavirus or agree at the start that it’s a banned topic. Share the joy and satisfaction of others in your home express in their work and play.


- Take a new perspective on daily tasks such as cooking and look for the joy in spending time preparing something, however simple, for others and yourself.


Engagement

Isolation from others makes engagement even more critical: with those that remain or can be contacted electronically or with your activities. High engagement activities flood the body with positive hormones that elevate one’s sense of well-being. Athletes, musicians, and others are well experienced in this effect; they call it ‘flow.’ Time flies by as the individual focuses on the task to the exclusion of everything else. In ‘flow,’ we find engagement, calmness, focus, and joy. You, too, can enjoy flow in your home-based work and reduced social activities. For instance, you might find ‘flow’ in:


- Writing a report or proposal by excluding other distractions.


- Giving yourself time during the day to read some research or that informative book you have by your bedside.


- Listening deeply to others about their lives to connect with them; your family or friends over social media; try listening for ten minutes or more without interrupting – what have you’re learned about them and yourself?


- Exercising, singing, or playing your instrument – giving proper time to these activities allows you to experience focus, calmness, and satisfaction.


Relationships

Relationships and social connections are crucial to meaning and purpose in our lives. We thrive on strong interactions with others that promote strong emotional reactions such as love and intimate friendship. While many of us are used to interconnections at work and home taking place face to face, our isolation does not need to mean that our relationships need to suffer, but we need to think about how to re-configure them. Now is the time to nurture relationships at home and take a watchful eye on others in your neighborhood who may not have secure connections via social media, such as the elderly. Kindness should come to the fore in all our relationships. Our physical isolation does not need to mean we are emotionally isolated, while the Coronavirus pandemic plays out across the world. If we know we belong to a group, it helps us feel safe and valued. Great relationships are based on identifying and understanding the other person: such intimacy is the source of joy that we all seek and need. You might try to elevate the privacy you with others have by:



- Approaching your neighbor, perhaps over the phone or at a safe distance, to inquire about how they are getting on and what help they might appreciate, then listen and act.


- Taking time to speak with your work colleagues about how they are coping with working from home, then listen.


- Setting aside time to do the same with your partner or children; listen.


Listening deeply means seeking to understand the emotions and feelings which the person is expressing. If this is not something you normally do (because you are too busy thinking about your response to what they are saying or your own emotional reaction), then you have a golden opportunity to increase your sense of joy as your relationships grow. 


Meaning

Coronavirus has forced many individuals and institutions to re-consider their purpose. Purpose provides us with sense, which is a critical ingredient in personal fulfillment. Religion and spirituality provide many people with sense, and so too does ethically based work, raising children, volunteering for a great cause, and expressing ourselves creatively. Typically, people find pleasure in possessions, but they do not find meaning; meaning is more profound and emotional. Whether you work in an office or, now, at home, think of what you spend most of your time doing. What does that activity provide you with? You might like to expand activities that reinforce your sense of purpose and provide you with meaning. You might try using some of your time to:



- Explore your purpose, write it down, refine it, and, when you are ready, share it with others – this gives a powerful driver to your goals. “Mine is simply to enable the people around me to flourish – it’s high-minded and non-specific because that suits me, but it might not suit you,” says Mike.


- Once you have a sense of your purpose (this might take longer than the Coronavirus epidemic will provide), try mapping out, in your mind, or on paper, how your current approach to life meets your purpose. Which activities and relationships support your mission, and which do not? You now have your very own personal improvement plan.


Accomplishments

A sense of accomplishment is an essential aspect of positive living, flourishing, and happiness, which is why bucket lists are increasingly common. Whatever your circumstances, accomplishments remind us that we have control over our lives. Such achievements do not need to be grand to provide this reminder of control. While in isolation, you should make realistic goals that can be achieved. You might try:



- An exercise regime that gets you up from your home office desk and in fresh air for a least 10 minutes in every hour.


- Cooking a meal from scratch from the ingredients you have.


- Handwriting (not email, text, or other social media) a letter expressing your thanks to someone from your past who helped you when you needed it – imagine how they will feel reading it.


- Finally, having that conversation with your boss about your aspirations in work and seeking their support.


- Telling those dear to you that you love them. – come on; you can do it more than you currently do, and now is a perfect opportunity.


Written by Benjamin Laker for Forbes.com

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Paris Jackson‘s new ink comes with a hopeful message.

The 21-year-old daughter of late music legend Michael Jackson took to Instagram Thursday to show off her latest tattoo, an inscription on her neck written in the Elvish language from author J.R.R. Tolkien’s “Lord of the Rings” books.

The design, created by LA’s Tattoo Mania, includes an uplifting quote from Tolkien’s “The Fellowship of the Ring,” which Jackson translated for her fans: “a light from the shadows [shall spring].”


Considering the timing, it’s likely the musician was aiming to inspire optimism in the face the current coronavirus pandemic, during which people across the globe — famous and not — are staying home to slow the disease’s spread.

The Elvish artwork joins a host of other tattoos on Jackson’s body — over 50 in total — that include chakra symbols on her chest, a Mötley Crüe-inspired snake on her bicep and four designs that nod to Led Zeppelin on the back of her arm.


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Getting a tattoo can be an exciting, as well as painful, experience. In order to assure that your tattoo experience is successful, and as painless as possible, there are some things you can do to prepare before hand. Making sure that you understand the process, that your body is properly prepared, and that you are happy with your design when you go in for your tattoo appointment.



Making sure you are physically ready

Before you go to get tattooed, make sure that you are well hydrated. Drink lots of water for the 24 hours before your tattoo and avoid dehydrating yourself.

How much water you need to drink to be well hydrated will depend on your specific body. While some experts recommend eight glasses a day, your body may need more than that amount. Well hydrated skin will be in better condition for getting tattooed. This means that the surface of the skin will take the ink easier, making tattoo application easier than it would be on dehydrated skin.


Avoid thinning your blood

In order to limit your bleeding, you should avoid products that thin your blood for 24 hours before getting a tattoo. This means that you should avoid alcohol before getting a tattoo.

Also, avoid taking aspirin for the 24 hours before a tattoo. Aspirin is a blood thinner, so being on aspirin will make your tattoo bleed more.


Wear comfortable clothes

Depending on the size of the tattoo, you may be at the tattoo shop for several hours. You might as well be in a comfortable outfit while you are dealing with the discomfort of the tattoo process.


In addition, comfortable, loose clothing may be required in order for your tattoo artist to access the area where you are getting tattooed. If you are getting a tattoo in an area of your body that is usually covered up by clothing, make sure that you wear something to your appointment that will give the tattoo artist easy access to the area.For example, if you are getting a tattoo on your leg, consider wearing shorts or a skirt, so that the tattooist can easily get to the area. Similarly, if you are getting a tattoo on your upper arm, wear a sleeveless shirt.


Eat before your appointment

It is important that you have enough food before your appointment so that you don't get light headed while getting a tattoo. The pain of a tattoo is bad enough, you don't want to add to it with lightheadedness or passing out into the mix.


Having low blood sugar can increase the physical reaction to a tattoo, making you more likely to pass out from the pain.Eating a solid meal before your appointment will give you the energy and stamina to withstand the pain of getting a tattoo. While it does not matter what you eat exactly, as long as it will give the sustenance you need to get through the appointment, eating a meal high in protein instead of sugar will sustain you longer. If you are having an extremely long tattoo appointment, bring a quick snack, like a granola bar, with you. Your tattooist will be happy to take a quick break so that you can stay nourished.


Prepare your skin

You do not need to do a lot to your skin before a tattoo. Just moisturize with your normal moisturizer for a week beforehand if you have dry skin to make sure that it is in good shape. Also, avoid getting a sunburn on the area you are getting tattooed. This means wearing sunscreen whenever you leave the house.

While the area you are getting tattooed will need to be shaved, most tattoo artists do not want you to do it ahead of time. Instead, they will do it right before the tattoo to assure that any irritation does not interfere with the tattoo process.


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